tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7022264171327991654.post5183789855210985443..comments2023-07-07T01:19:09.668-07:00Comments on Loneliness in a crowded city: Why this Kolaveri Kolaveri kolaveri....Gunjan Priyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04175240636523297676noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7022264171327991654.post-26364906798226610522011-12-23T03:45:16.702-08:002011-12-23T03:45:16.702-08:00I do agree with you. Love brings pain; it brings u...I do agree with you. Love brings pain; it brings unhappiness; it is ephemeral. But all this is true only when the love you are talking about is not selfless.<br><br>Expectations, as you aptly mention, form the basis of all problems. <br><br>What if we could love, and not expect in return? Would we still be unhappy? Would we still cry? What if we could "Shift+Del" our ego? Would we still be unhappy that we are not getting back the love we gave? Perhaps not; perhaps, we can be really happy if we could at least try just giving what we could, and not expect anything in return. <br><br>"Devalue" the self, and then only you could transcend the barriers of unhappiness and enter the realm of true happiness -- that is what all the major religions of the world seem to teach, and that is how you will be nearer the Supreme Power. If you can reach god by being selfless, can you not experience true love in the same way? When we are in love, don't we try to please our partner by doing little things that may not define who we are, but we nevertheless do those things only in order to please the beloved? Why do we complain, later, then? May be because we start thinking "Enough! Now let me see what he/she can do for me in return." That is how we start expectating, and out goes the happiness. <br><br>Kolaveri is a nice song, and the feelings it expresses are real. But it is up to us whether we choose wallowing in sorrow or being at peace... <br><br>May be we could just try loving. And not expecting. And go on like that.somhttp://somdotta.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7022264171327991654.post-46567661019268259962011-12-23T03:45:16.701-08:002011-12-23T03:45:16.701-08:00I do agree with you. Love brings pain; it brings u...I do agree with you. Love brings pain; it brings unhappiness; it is ephemeral. But all this is true only when the love you are talking about is not selfless.<br><br>Expectations, as you aptly mention, form the basis of all problems. <br><br>What if we could love, and not expect in return? Would we still be unhappy? Would we still cry? What if we could "Shift+Del" our ego? Would we still be unhappy that we are not getting back the love we gave? Perhaps not; perhaps, we can be really happy if we could at least try just giving what we could, and not expect anything in return. <br><br>"Devalue" the self, and then only you could transcend the barriers of unhappiness and enter the realm of true happiness -- that is what all the major religions of the world seem to teach, and that is how you will be nearer the Supreme Power. If you can reach god by being selfless, can you not experience true love in the same way? When we are in love, don't we try to please our partner by doing little things that may not define who we are, but we nevertheless do those things only in order to please the beloved? Why do we complain, later, then? May be because we start thinking "Enough! Now let me see what he/she can do for me in return." That is how we start expectating, and out goes the happiness. <br><br>Kolaveri is a nice song, and the feelings it expresses are real. But it is up to us whether we choose wallowing in sorrow or being at peace... <br><br>May be we could just try loving. And not expecting. And go on like that.somhttp://somdotta.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com